First, be a follower. Despite the negative sound of it, being a follower to your father or an elder in your family has its own good. After all, a family is all you have in this life; it’s irreplaceable. Sometime control is the one thing you wont enjoy.
Second, be your own choice-maker. To me it’s a pipe dream.
Quentin Jacobsen. Paper Towns by John Green (pg. 139)